ENDURANCE

Endurance. 
A word indigenously tagged on someone who are already soaring high enough to touch the rainbow, to drink its exquisite beauty, and to look to the other side of it, if there is a pot of gold or whatsoever. 
It is a totally unrelated matter, but here i want to quote from a senior of mine - There is no garden of Eden, there are only people in fighting spirit. 


Endurance.
Normally and reflexively we will combine it to 'pain', 'sufferings' and 'toil' with a note that suggests a statement like this - we will find a way out if we put it through all the rains and torrents that get into our ways. The road to success is lined with many tempting parking spaces, right? But this is not something i want to touch on today, because, with the passage of life, i think i find some new meaning for this particularly stereotypical word.


Endurance.
is actually too crucial to mankind who never fails to find themselves constantly dealing with others of the same species living with the same niche. Relationship between individual and individual has always been an issue that always stirs up an uproar within everyone, be it internally or externally. And the relationship can be the cornerstone which other issues stem from. For instance, friendship,   comradeship, neighbourliness, love (for family and for lovers) and so many more. The influxes between people, should it be categorized, can be largely divided into two - To foster and to distance. Actually, we can't possibly line the boundaries of the two, since nothing is absolute if it concerns sensuality. However, one thing for certain is that, we are actually bettering the situation if our distance ain't taking backward steps. But, keeping a safe distance itself is already something difficult to achieve and it will take a lot of things and wisdom to reach. Every way leads to Rom, likewise the concept of making all of your relationships work. But i find one of the essential ways, is to endure. 


I know you know better than that if i say there are times where fights and arguments are inevitable. You will sense it when the air is getting heavier and more and more congested, or the breathes of growls are growing; you are somehow able to tell the impendence of the coming disputes. And here comes the time where wisdom and rationality count the most. 


Most of the people i met in my life, i would say, is like a arid match meets a spark of flame when they come to deal with sprouting argument, which is denoted by the voice which octaves have been progressively raised up. When we are blinded by our anger and rage, we would simply blurt out words directly without much thought. And that is when the argument would reach its peak.


Have you ever realized that the words being rifled out of your mouth would carry the most devastating effect? Those remarks are usually acerbic, pungent, and hurting the most that would simply make slices on the hearts of those standing before you, who have been loving you the most. Trickling teardrops would always follow this kind of situation; Tears of remorse would always brim the speaker's eyes with a flow of warmth as soonly as the speaker realize how moroon and compulsive he was at the split of second before, while, the tears of sorrow would dribble and outline the figure of the face of the listener as sweet memories of the duo have just washed his mind.     



Note that if you couldn't hold that breathe of anger for a little while, you would have to spend the rest of lifetime regretting the foolishness of your compulsion. Some wounds take a life time to heal, you know. Like the cracks on a shattered-but-pasted glassware. The marks are not going anywhere. They stay.


Personally i have been made to face this kind of encounter as i am just about to step into adulthood. The aftermath of the torrents that happen in our household, between our friends and us and in our life, are something we can't really swallow.
So,


Endurance,
is you need the most when you realize that you would say whatever you like when you are getting mad. Bear the embarrassment you face through the shower of words, endure the remarks of the action of the corresponding party. Don't fight back. Take it silently, although there is a turbulence happening in you; If he would like to swing his fist to land a stinging punch on you, let him do whatever thing to release his rage. 
As the guilty emotion recedes, he will regret definitely. 


Great Buddha Gautama Siddharta: 

'Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes'

Christianity (Matthew 5:39):

'If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.'

and i strongly believe that other religions teach the same thing too...

It's all actually up to you, to be the rational one who sincerely wishes to keep the relationship largely intact, or to be the one who are governed by his own selfish emotions and feelings without considering others' 
feeling in the bottom of their hearts...